Setting Priorities in your Life
Setting Priorities in your Life. We can stretch time in our lives by prioritising the order in which we accomplish things. If you routinely set priorities at work, learn to do this in your private life too. The trick of priority is to establish the dividend or payoff for doing an activity rather than giving…
Chapter 5 Self Esteem
EVENTS lead to INTERPRETATION leading to EMOTION leading to ACTION Making your Happiness Changes Conscious Becoming conscious means not operating automatically, its about really seeing what is happening and choosing your best possible emotional, mental, spiritual or behavioural response in each moment. Living our lives unconsciously means we don’t know we’re doing it and this…
The Daily Temperature Reading
(originally by Virginia Satir) As you become used to the temperature reading, you’ll evolve your own style and routine for making it a ritual in your life. You’ll also find that the best way to do the DTR is in person when you can focus your full attention on each other. Ideally, sit face to…
Mentoring guidelines
These serve to provide only as much structure to give mentors and Mentees a common set of expectations. Each mentor and mentee will develop their own relationship. You do not have to fulfil every possible function of a mentor to be effective, but do let your mentee know where you are willing to help and…
Chapter 4
De-Stressing: Sometimes we bottle things up or hide things from people. Sometimes we think that it’s not OK to let people know how we’re feeling or that we’re not coping that well. This isn’t good for our health. We need to get things out, to tell people about what’s going on for us and…
book 1 chapter 3: assertiveness
Strategies for Behaving More Assertivel Relationships are the essentials of life and society. Our relationships, loves, hates, commitments and duties make us what and who we are. These human bonds are so much a part of our daily existence, whether on a personal or political level that they hold the keys for the quality of…
Book 1 chapter 2
Making Happiness your Intention Whatever we choose to focus on, becomes our lives; if you focus on feeling happy, you will feel happier. To focus on being happy needs you to do certain things, to become all that you can be and accepting yourself as you are. But ‘I already do that’ you say ‘and…
Karpman triangle
The Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim Triangle. Stephen Karpman first wrote about the Drama Triangle in 1968; his Drama Triangle is based on blame and guilt and operates whenever games, lies or denial occurs. The purpose of the Drama Triangle is to promote our life scripts. (see T.A. bit) The roles of Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim…
Book 1
There is a wonderful, mystical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life; happiness, freedom and peace of mind, are only gained by giving them to someone else. Unknown Do you have: 1. A deep desire for inner change? 2. A set of workable principles about yourself?…
Opening
There is a wonderful, mystical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life; happiness, freedom and peace of mind, are only gained by giving them to someone else. Unknown Do you have: 1. A deep desire for inner change? 2. A set of workable principles about yourself?…
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