neilbenbow@consultant.com

  • letters never meaning to send

    Simon, you said to me I wanted to have a relationship with you, you do have…

  • A MAP OF AFRICA

    Again asleep, adrift on an ocean of mud, sliding deeper into the maw of death. When,…

  • Karpman triangle

    The Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim Triangle. Stephen Karpman first wrote about the Drama Triangle in 1968;…

  • Case study: Gilly

    Controlling women I first wrote on Controlling men a couple of decades ago, since then the…

  • a difficult mistress

    Alex was a maverick, one of those men thrown up on the shores of naval towns:…

  • Book 1

    There is a wonderful, mystical law of nature that the three things we crave most in…

  • Opening

    There is a wonderful, mystical law of nature that the three things we crave most in…

  • Poetry

    my archive: dive in & find

  • Oddbins: bits & pieces

    an eccentric collection of odds n sods

  • Letters

    Personal letters that serve as a bridge between the writer and reader, sharing vulnerability, insights, and…