There is a wonderful, mystical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life; happiness, freedom and peace of mind, are only gained by giving them to someone else.  Unknown

Do you have:

     1. A deep desire for inner change?

     2. A set of workable principles about yourself?

     3. Self-honesty?

     4. Persistence?

I’m hoping you’ve got at least two out of the four with a desire to gain more of the other two. My desire here is to work with you on building a set of workable principles about yourself. If I can help with your desire for inner change, your persistence and self-honesty, I’d like to do that too. I don’t want to be yet another nag or additional person doubting and undermining you, more that I’m hoping here to demonstrate that if you follow these four principles, you will get what you want: Happiness.

I believe this to be possible, because if you are prepared to work upon yourself, prepared to find out who and what you are in the world, to operate with honesty and persistence in working towards your goals, then nothing can stop you from getting what you want.

Is this you now?

Sick of your job, tired of waking up every morning to do things you don’t enjoy, tired of being mistreated, tired of being a slave, just tired all the time, tired of everything? Have you just begun to realise it’s going to take years to get the necessary money to live your dreams?

You’re not alone.

We exist in a society where to ‘be happy’ we buy things, we surround our lives with gadgets, cars, bigger TV screens and it doesn’t work. I believe that People; that’s you and me, our friends, families and those we don’t meet every day, don’t just want to have things; they want to be somebody.

To mean something special not just to themselves and others, but to society and in the world. Not necessarily being rich or famous, more that their word counts, their love is appreciated and that they are loved for who they are and not because of possessions or things that they can buy.

To be happy, a person needs to see something valuable in what they do, to be valued, loved, nurtured and cherished. But that isn’t easy. I think we’ve (I’ve!) got out of the habit of valuing, loving, nurturing and cherishing each other. Either we didn’t learn how to do it or somewhere along the way we forgot how and it became easier to buy a card saying I love you or a new toy at Christmas and hoping that was enough.  That’s easier…at least at first…but, and this is a big big BUT, if it worked would you now be unhappy???

Being unhappy isn’t easy, getting to be happy isn’t going to be easy either, if it was, you would’ve found out how to do it long ago instead of reading this and thinking of ‘trying something new.’

So, before you read further, acknowledge your courage. You are contemplating doing new things, your feet are moving toward new paths and to do these things takes courage. Recognise this now, because later you may want to walk away from trying newer ideas, ways and feelings because you don’t feel up to it, you don’t have courage. You do.

The best part of knowing you have courage is that you don’t always have to prove it. If I offer you a challenge later and you don’t want it, let it go, there is another day, another lifetime for that particular challenge, maybe it doesn’t fit right now, leave it and come back later. I’ll still be here, smiling, encouraging and wanting to take you further.

In the following I want to work with you on these things;

1. Your habits and your personality 
2. Knowing yourself
3. Assertiveness
4. How to work with people to get what you want
5. Money
6. Change
7. Stress control,
8. Holistic health,
9. Relationships, Love and sex
10. But not necessarily in that order….

I might be moving too fast here, maybe what you’ve got just needs a little tweaking here and there? Maybe you’re not aware of how happy you really are…

So, I’ve written this in sections, at the start of each section I offer a ‘starter’ bit, then go on to develop the ideas further.

Read as far as you want to, skip bits.

Maybe all you need is the first section, maybe a bit of the next and the rest may only be of use to a friend, all choices are yours. Take only what you need and if any of this sparks off a better idea for you, that’s absolutely great. Do drop me a line, let me know!

What would make you happy?

money, possessions, health, recreation, pleasure, success, power and popularity?

I’d say fear is the most common deterrent to happiness, the fear of punishment, losing control, loss, being unloved, rejection, of obliteration or what we don’t have. So sometimes creating happiness is removing the things, the fears and behaviours that make us unhappy. I’ll be coming back to these later.